Make You Loved: the fourth ring of the Black Pullet

What the Black Pullet rings are

The rings of the Black Pullet Grimoire are working tools, each carrying one named purpose, and the fourth ring is to make you loved. That is a plain, old-fashioned purpose, and it should be talked about plainly. To be loved, in the old sense, is to be held in affection and regard, to be welcomed rather than passed over, and to be thought of warmly by the people around you. It is a human wish, and grimoires have addressed it for centuries, because it touches daily life more directly than many grander-sounding workings do.

It is worth distinguishing, at the start, between being loved in general and being loved by one particular person for one particular reason. The title of this ring is general: make you loved. It does not name a person, and this article does not invent one. A general working for love and regard is a different working from a working aimed at a named individual, and a practitioner should know which one they are actually doing before they begin. Confusing the two leads to muddled aims, and muddled aims lead to results that are hard to recognise or to learn from.

The rings offered here are from the Black Pullet Grimoire, hand made with the proper materials. That matters for a love working as much as for any other, because a tool made carelessly, for work that touches how a person is received by others, is a poor foundation. Care in the making is part of care in the working.

Being loved, and being lovable

Old love workings often sit uncomfortably close to a question practitioners would rather skip: what in my own conduct, bearing, or situation makes love harder to receive? A ring does not answer that question by itself, but a serious working for love should ask it. Are you approachable, or guarded to the point of being unreadable? Do you show warmth, or do you wait for others to prove themselves first, every time? Do you keep company, or have you withdrawn so far that there is little company to receive you at all?

Those are not accusations. They are the ordinary, practical side of being loved, and they belong in an article about a love ring, because ritual work that never touches daily conduct tends to stay in the ritual room. A practitioner who works for love and also makes themselves available to be loved, in ordinary life, in conversation, in kindness, in showing up, is doing the working in two places at once, and that is usually where change, when it comes, can actually be seen.

At the same time, being loved is not simply a matter of self-improvement, and this article does not pretend otherwise. Some people are passed over for reasons that have nothing to do with their conduct, and some situations are cold for reasons no single person controls. A love working, in the grimoire sense, addresses the part of the matter that is not fully in ordinary hands: regard, affection, warmth, and welcome, as forces in their own right, not just as rewards for good behaviour.

Being specific about what you want

Reflection about being specific about what you want is especially important in love work. What kind of love, from whom, in what form, and for what kind of life together? Affection from friends, warmth in a household, regard at work, a lover, a companion, a community that welcomes you: these are different aims, and a working that tries to cover all of them at once, with no named form, is hard to judge afterwards. It either "worked" in a vague sense that proves nothing, or it "failed" in a vague sense that teaches nothing.

Write the aim down in one clear sentence, in plain language, and read it back the next day. If it still reads true, it is ready. If it has changed into something else, it was not ready, and more time spent naming the matter is better spent than a working launched on a shifting aim. Include, in that sentence, the form of love you seek, not just the word love itself, because love without a form is a word, not a working.

Specificity also helps a practitioner recognise an answer when it arrives. Love work often bears fruit in a form the practitioner did not picture in advance: a friendship deepening, a household softening, a new circle opening, rather than the single dramatic scene imagined beforehand. A specific aim, held loosely enough to recognise neighbouring fruit, is better than a rigid picture that blinds the practitioner to everything except one imagined outcome.

How these rings are made

The rings are made of pure steel, then bronzed, as is required. Steel first, then bronzing, in the manner the grimoire requires, is not decoration. It is the making itself, done in order.

The designs are hand engraved right into the wax used to create the rings. No engraving machine is used, because, in Athena's words, that would take away much of the magic. A machine can copy a line perfectly, and that is exactly the problem for a working tool: a copied line has no hand in it. A line engraved by hand into wax, and then carried through casting, keeps the maker's hand in the object from the first mark to the finished ring.

That hand work means no two rings are identical. A buyer who wants a factory-identical copy should know that before ordering. A buyer who wants a hand made working tool will understand that difference as the point, not as a flaw.

Preparing for love work

Preparation for love work starts with the naming described above, and continues with preparing the place and yourself. Clear the working space, set it aside for this purpose, and come to the work washed, settled, and with time set aside that will not be interrupted. Love work done in a state of agitation, or immediately after a quarrel, or in the middle of a long night of worry, is not the same working as love work done with a settled mind, and the difference shows in whether the practitioner can actually hold the aim steady long enough to work with it.

It is also worth deciding, before you begin, how you will live after the working. Will you go where people are? Will you answer warmth with warmth? Will you keep appointments, return messages, and show up for the company you already have? A working for love that is followed by withdrawal is a working pulling in two directions at once. The ritual and the daily conduct should pull in the same direction, or neither will carry far.

Put the ring on deliberately, as part of beginning, if that is your practice, and take it off deliberately, as part of closing. That simple discipline marks the working off from ordinary time, and it gives the practitioner a physical signal that the work has started and that it has ended. Tools that are never put away tend to be worked with carelessly, and love work worked carelessly is a poor way to ask for regard.

Working with the ring

During the working, keep the aim steady. Speak the matter and the purpose clearly, once, rather than repeating the working until it loses its shape, and then give it time to develop. Love, in ordinary life as in ritual, rarely arrives on a timetable set in advance, and a practitioner who demands an immediate, dramatic sign will often miss the quieter signs that the working is actually taking hold: a conversation that goes better than usual, a welcome that is warmer, a door that opens a little wider than before.

Afterwards, write down what you did, when you did it, what aim you named, and what you noticed over days and weeks, in plain language, not in the language of what you hoped would happen. Note whether the ring was worn, held, or set in place, and what you noticed on days when it was worked with compared with days when it was not. That record is what lets you tell, weeks later, whether anything actually changed in how you are received, and whether that change had anything to do with the work.

Do not repeat the same working endlessly in the hope that repetition alone will force a result. Do the work properly, once, observe, and then decide calmly whether a second working, a different approach, or no further working is the right next step. Repetition without reflection is not persistence. It is noise, and noise is the opposite of the warmth and welcome this working seeks.

When love work touches other people

Love work touches other people by its nature, and that is why specificity and steadiness matter more here than in workings that touch only the practitioner. A general working for regard and affection leaves room for others to respond freely, in their own way, and in their own time. A working that tries to fix every detail of another person's response in advance is a different kind of working, and a practitioner should be honest with themselves about which kind they are actually doing, before they begin, not after.

That honesty is not a restriction imposed from outside. It is part of the practitioner's own judgement, exercised before the working, about what kind of love they actually want to live with. Love that is freely given, and freely received, is a different life from love that has to be held in place by constant working. A practitioner who wants the first kind should work for the first kind, and should be able to say so, plainly, in their own record.

Keep the ring with your working tools between workings, not mixed in with everyday jewellery, keys, and loose change. A tool that is treated carelessly tends to be worked with carelessly. Setting it aside properly is a small discipline, and small disciplines are what hold a larger practice together over years rather than weeks.

Care for a hand made ring

Care for a hand made ring is practical. Keep it in a clean, dry place when you are not wearing it for a working, away from other metal objects that could scratch it. Clean it gently, with a soft cloth, and do not use harsh chemicals or abrasive cleaners on it unless you know, for the materials involved, that such a cleaner is safe. Bronzed steel will show wear over time, especially if it is worn every day, and that wear is normal for a working tool. It is a sign the ring has been carried, not a sign it has stopped being a tool.

If the ring loosens, tightens, or shows damage, stop wearing it for workings until it can be dealt with properly. A tool that is falling apart, or that you are worried about losing, is a distraction in a working, and love work needs attention, not distraction. That is a practical point, but it is also a working point, because focus is the working itself.

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