Botis, Reconciliation, and the Seal for That Work

What Botis is known for

In the Goetia, Botis is a President, and the Grimoire Companion record for him is short and to the point: he tells all things past and to come, and he reconciles friends and enemies. Those two offices belong together more closely than they first appear. Most broken relationships are broken, in part, by a disagreement about what happened. Each side remembers the past differently, and each side is certain its own memory is the true one. A spirit who speaks of past and future, and who reconciles, is therefore not offering two unrelated services. He is offering a way through the disagreement itself: a clearer view of what was, and a way forward that both sides could actually walk.

That is also why reconciliation work is harder than it looks. It is easy to ask for a relationship to be restored. It is harder to ask for the truth about why it broke, and harder still to accept that the restored relationship may not look like the old one. If you approach Botis wanting the past back exactly as it was, you are asking for something that no longer exists. If you approach him wanting a clear view of what happened, and a genuine possibility of a new footing, you are asking something a working can actually address.

Friends, enemies, and the space between

Reconciliation is usually spoken of as if there were only two categories: friends and enemies. In practice, most of the relationships that need this work live in the space between. A friend who has become distant. A colleague who has become an adversary. A family member who is neither cut off nor close, but stuck in a cold politeness that helps nobody. Naming the relationship honestly is part of the work, because the petition for a friend is not the same as the petition for an enemy, and neither is the same as the petition for someone in between.

Be specific about who you mean, and about what you actually want from them. Do you want a conversation? An apology, given or received? A working arrangement? A clean ending, with no further bitterness? Each of those is a different aim, and each calls for a different petition. Reflection about being specific about what you want is not a formality here. It is the difference between a working that can be recognised when it bears fruit, and a vague wish that can never be confirmed or denied, and therefore never learned from.

Knowing the past before trying to repair it

Botis tells of things past and to come, and in reconciliation work, the past part comes first. Before you ask for a relationship to change, ask yourself, plainly, what your own part in the break was. Not the other person's part, which you probably already have a detailed account of, but yours. What did you say, or fail to say? What did you assume, without checking? What would you do differently, if the same situation arose again? Write those answers down, privately, before the working. They are not a confession for anyone else. They are preparation, and they change the petition from a demand into a genuine request.

That preparation also protects you from a common fault in this work, which is using a spirit working as a substitute for a conversation. If a conversation is possible, and safe, and honest, it may be the better path, or it may be the path that follows the working. The working clarifies and opens; it does not exempt you from speaking, listening, or apologising where an apology is owed. A practitioner who asks for reconciliation and then refuses every opportunity to reconcile has misunderstood what was asked for.

How to work with a seal, in practice

There are several straightforward ways to work with a seal, and they suit different temperaments. You can hold it in your hands while you sit quietly, letting the weight and the engraving give your hands something real to attend to while you turn your mind to the relationship in question. You can put it under a candle, so the working is lit by a flame that burns above the seal for its duration. You can put oil on it, anointing it deliberately for the purpose of the working. You can carry it with you through the day, as a reminder of the working and as a point of contact to return to, especially on days when you will meet the person concerned. You can wear it as a pendant, so it sits close to the body during the practice itself. Or you can show it to the desired person, in the sense of presenting the seal as the focus of the petition, when the working concerns a particular person.

None of these is more correct than the others in the abstract. The right one is the one you will actually do, consistently, with attention. A pendant worn every day but never attended to is decoration. A seal kept in a drawer but taken out, held, and worked with properly once a week is a tool. For reconciliation work, carrying the seal is often the most practical method, because the working does not end when you leave the room. It continues in how you speak, listen, and act the next time you meet the person, and the seal in your pocket is a reminder of the footing you chose in the working.

Preparing a Botis working

Prepare the room first, and prepare yourself second. Clear the space, set it aside for this purpose, and use it consistently if you can. Bathe or wash, change into clothes set apart from ordinary errands, and eat simply beforehand. Do not begin when you are angry in the moment, if you can avoid it. Anger passes, and a working done in the heat of it often reads, afterwards, as something you wish you had phrased differently. Wait until you can state the matter calmly, even if the matter itself is serious.

Next, write down the petition in one clear paragraph. Name the person, name the relationship as it is now, name what you want it to become, and name what you are prepared to do yourself towards that change. That last clause is the one most petitions omit, and it is the one that matters most. A petition that asks everything of the spirit and nothing of the petitioner is not a working. It is a wish, and wishes do not teach you anything when they fail.

How the seal is made here

These are lost wax cast seals of the Daemon Demons of the various grimoires. These are pure metal which is actually cast, starting with a wax version, which is much higher quality than the 3D printed versions, using metal powder and plastic, that you find around the internet. The ones which are not listed but are under the other option take 8 weeks, because the waxes for them have not all been carved yet. They are pictured as just discs here, and you can get them like this if you prefer, but I do either case a bail onto them, or solder one on, depending on the metal used, so you can use the seal as a pendant. The made-to-order time mentioned in the source is approximately 2 to 3 weeks, or 8 weeks for the unlisted options.

That hand-cast quality matters for a tool you will hold in your hands. A seal is not only an image. It is a weight, a texture, and an edge, and the hand learns it over time. A cast seal, made by a human hand from wax to metal, carries a different presence in the hand than a printed imitation, and that presence is part of how it holds attention during a working. I make no promise about what it will do for you, only that it is made by hand, for this work, and not mass produced. What follows from your practice, in terms of magical result, is yours to observe, not mine to guarantee, and that wording is about the magical result, not about delivery dates for physical items.

A simple working order, to adapt to your own practice

The following is a general order, not a fixed script. Adapt it to the system you already work in, and do not treat a general article as a substitute for proper teaching in the system. First, prepare the room and yourself, as above. Second, set out the seal and a candle, with your written petition and a notebook. Third, hold the seal, or place it before you, and speak the petition clearly and once, rather than repeating it until it loses its shape. Fourth, sit quietly and listen, rather than filling every moment with more words, and notice what comes to mind about the past of the relationship, as well as its possible future. Fifth, write down what you noticed, plainly, and close the working properly, putting the seal away in its proper place.

Afterwards, watch for ordinary opportunities to act on the working: a message you could answer differently, a conversation you could open, an apology you could make, a boundary you could hold more kindly. Record those, too, alongside the working itself, so that weeks later you can see whether anything changed, and whether that change had anything to do with the work, the conversation, or both. That record is what lets you learn from the working, instead of merely remembering that you did one.

When reconciliation is not the right aim

Sometimes the right answer is not reconciliation at all. If a relationship is unsafe, or if the other person has made it clear they do not want contact, respecting that boundary is itself a form of good practice. A working aimed at restoring contact against a clear refusal is not reconciliation. It is pressure, and it will not produce the relationship you actually want. In such cases, the honest petition may be for a clean ending, for your own clarity about the past, or for the ability to move forward without bitterness, rather than for the other person's return.

It is also worth asking whether the enemy in the situation is a person, a habit, a pattern, or a set of circumstances. The answer changes the petition, and it changes what you should be holding and why. A working aimed at a person when the real problem is a pattern you keep repeating will not do the work you actually need done. Do the work properly, once, observe, and then decide, calmly, whether a second working, a different approach, or no further working is the right next step.

Botis one inch cast seal pendant

If you are doing work with Botis, the seal is for holding, carrying, and working with, not for show.

I hand cast Botis seals by the lost wax method, in pure metal, and the seal can be worn as a pendant with a bail cast or soldered on. I make no promise about what it will do for you, only that it is made by hand, for this work, and not mass produced.

If you want the seal for that work, this is the one I offer: Botis cast Daemon Demon seal pendant 1 inch, $108 CAD, 1 inch. View the product

I also make the incense to go with Botis work, for the same spirit: Botis Goetia incense, $44 CAD. View the product

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